okay so i like this girl. and my friend likes her too. said friend knows i like her and the only reason i can tell she likes the girl is bc shes so overly obvious.
on monday me n the girl i like were sitting on top on the bleachers and ours knees were touching. neither of us moved it for at least 30 mins, basically till we left.then the friend comes along and sits on her other side so shes sandwiched between us. when i leaned forward on my elbows the girl leaned her elbow on me?? but surely that meant nothing.
today the friend interlocked their arms tgt and they walked somewhere. i just stood there watching and yeah it is my fault for not stepping up my game but its just when i'm around her i go all rigid. i can't talk properly, look her in the eye, and just more awkward than usual.
i talked to another friend abt this situation and she told me to talk to the friend or actually start acting up with the girl. i don't wanna talk to the friend bc that will just ruin everything and our friend groups hang out a lot so that will be really weird too. the friend also went around telling mutual friends that i like the girl.
the only reason i told the friend was bc i thought maybe she'd know if she liked me. i don't have any classes with the girl just break and she's always surrounded by my friend so thats really annoying.
i asked her to go with me to a store tomorrow but i swear if someone tags along with us or she doesn't come with me i'm gonna end my shit. the girl is also new so maybe she's just putting up with my friends bs bc of that but idk. - raging bi girl
- girl this is so relatable! trust me i've been there: i am sooo awkward around someone i like, but as you become closer you'll get more comfortable so don't worry! you totally did the right thing making a move by inviting her somewhere, so see how that goes and try and assess the vibe from there. if it gets easier and more comfortable to be around her, that's amazing! but if not, don't fret, good things take time: keep making plans and as you grow closer, make it clear how you feel.
if telling her how you feel doesn't go as planned, it won't be the end of the world: my favorite quote is "love is never wasted, for its value does not rest upon reciprocity," by C.S. Lewis. Having a crush is fun, and so is having a friend (if you end up not telling her)!
now about the friend liking the same girl; I totally understand why you wouldn't want to talk to her about it. when she went around telling people you like the girl, were you okay with that? a good friend wouldn't share a secret you weren't comfortable sharing. if i were you, i would ask your friend why she would tell people that and ask her to stop (if that's how you feel).
and you may just want to talk to your friend to acknowledge that you like the same girl: it doesn't have to be a bad thing, and you should never ruin a good friendship over a crush. ultimately, it's up to your crush to choose who she wants to be with, so don't stress over your ":competition," because the only thing you can do is show your interest and be kind!
don't worry about your crush's friendship with your friend, just focus on your friendship with your crush. you can't change other people's behavior, but you can change your own.
ultimately, you can't control your feelings, and neither can your friend. be kind to each other regardless and don't be afraid to tell anyone how you feel: whether it's your crush or your friend.
best of wishes with you, your friend, and your crush! remember, most things that happen today won't matter in five months or five years: don't stress too much, and enjoy this time of your life!
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