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okay so like I like this guy right but I'm afraid to pursue him because I think he isn't attracted to black girl or like probably that just isn't his normal type. I have not fully confirmed it and it's weird to just ask someone that but also with hearing his type it just seems that way. 

  

 I don't really want to start pursuing someone if they will probably never give me a chance because i feel like that just leads to false hope in the end so like i don't know how to find out without asking. I also think that people with a racial preference would never say they have a racial preference in fear of it seeming racist and  i don't think I would feel a certain way if he did. 

yeahhhh its just complicated atp and he has girls all over him on top of that who seem to be more his physical type in a way and it doesn't make me feel insecure at ALL but also like i just don't like pursuing someone when i know i don't have a chance and right now i don't really know that because im scared to talk to him:(. 

and to be fair boys find it hard to be friends with girls that like them and that they don't like ( i heard it from friends and observation). If he was not to like me i would be fine with being friends because he isnt my man therefore i don't feel jealous about anything regarding him and other girls but for him that may be hard to believe so yeah. - rawr rawr gahhhh

- this is a tough spot to be in! to start, are you guys good friends already? What makes you think he wouldn't like you? people may have a type, but there are always exceptions. I've also found from personal experiences that "types" are more frequently for personality traits rather than appearances.

 you never know if he'll give you a chance if you don't try! trust me, it's better to try something than to wonder "what if" forever. the worst that can happen is he's not interested in a relationship with you right now, but is that a bad thing? you want to be with someone who wants to be with you! 

if you do want to tell him how you feel, start by having casual conversations: ask him about his classes, his hobbies, his friends. once you're more comfortable being around him, try asking him to hang out or eat lunch together. small steps will let you see if you guys are compatible as friends, and then you can assess how you're feeling from there! don't fret about being nervous around him, it happens to everyone: and he's probably nervous too!

as for the idea that boys think it's hard to be friends with girls that like them that the boy doesn't like: i've seen it go both ways. for one, boys are OBLIVIOUS. it doesn't matter what age. boys often don't know you like them until you straight-up say "i like you." if he does know you like him, chances are he's flattered! i'm sure that you're beautiful and kind, and any boy would be lucky to be with you. don't worry about anyone who doesn't think the same, as they aren't worth your time.

i think you have a better chance than you think, and if he truly doesn't like you based on how you look, he's missing out on everything you have to offer underneath. don't stress about boys that think like that; if this boy isn't the one for you, you'll find someone who loves you inside and out! don't be afraid to take chances and remember your worth always :)