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heyy, i just want your opinion on this and what should i do afterwards?? ... its about between me and my friendgroup... so we have 5 ppl in this friendgroup including me alright... soo all of us are girls and also muslim (promise me the last one is very relevant).

so basically ever since i downloaded snap, it started suggesting mostly guys, and i just went along with it cuz some of them wanted to do streaks (some r creeps too, but i ignored those) and a few talking stages. And i've always talked abt many guys ive encountered with this one friend (friend A) who went thru couple relationships before and i knew she would totally relate with me so i trusted her.

 

i also told her that, i wanted to try experience new things and expressing myself by dressing differently (like croptops etc) and going with my hair out. And (friend A) knew that, it was a discrimination towards our religion but she adviced me what would happend but at the same time she also knew im struggling with my own religion. 

 

My mum n my family would kill me if they knew but i told her not to snitch. and i also told the other 2 abt this too except for this one friend. So.. this one friend (friend B), she's quite religious. the thing is, i was kinda dumb enough to post myself with my hair out on social media cuz i jst wanted to feel pretty for once and trying to bmf with other girls tht are like me on tiktok. apparently, (friend B) found out about this and maybe, before she wanted to come foward to me, she asked one of our friendgroup. 

 

Im not sure whether they snitched or not BUTT when she confessed to me i was suprised when she mentioned about " me talking to some guy"??  i only thought she was just only mad at me for taking my hijab off. but i didnt include or mention any guys on my social media. And it hit me. while friend b was mad at me, she even had the audacity to threatened me by saying "private that acc or im telling ur mum" i was actually caught off guard. she didnt have to interfere with my mum in this, even though i knew my mum wouldnt like it too. so i did privated it. 

 

but yknow what she did next? i suddenly got mad by my mum n i was confused, then she showed me  a screenshot of my social acc from friend b. that [censored] really had the audacity to tell my mum after i already privated it... so great. now its been a few months, i havent talk to my friendgroup at all since my phone got taken away. and my whole family thinks i did drugs or sex bcuz of taking my hijab off. dude i literally dont do drugs at all and i have zero bodycount. 

 

this just makes me feel hatred towards my own religion even more (bcuz u cant force someone to wear hijab ngl) but i still dont hate it entirely... so right now, i just cant wait till im a responsible adult and living financially stable, i could do whatever i want. I just have to bear with it for a couple years since im living under my mum's roof ;( (oh yeah btw, next year im moving out to a diff school despite what happend (still unconfirmed) ... im kinda happy that i wont be seeing them anymore but still, a bit nervous to adapt to a new school) :[[

- diva!! i'm going to be honest, i was going to write a blog post about this soon, but i didn't have a phone until i got to college actually! i've never had snap, so i don't have any personal experience with stuff like this (in part because i'm also not religious). but i definitely know all about it from my friends. 

wanting to express yourself in different ways totally makes sense: you are growing up and learning about yourself and new experiences, so of course you want to branch out! i think it's definitely a bit tough for those with strong opinions to accept different ways of thinking, but you get where they are coming from. if your friends are very set in their beliefs, it might have offended them a bit which makes sense why they would tell on you, but it's your life: it's up to you how you choose to live it. you won't live with your parents forever and you won't see your friends forever. it's you who's there forever (if that makes sense). be someone you want to be around! i don't know how old you are, but you're probably at the age you should be experimenting and finding out who exactly you want to be -- so do it do it do it!

definitely respect your parents and your friends' individual beliefs, but maybe talk to your friends about how you're feeling: respect should be mutual, regardless of your differences in beliefs. if they don't respect you or your opinions, there are people out there who will! maybe you could try branching out of your current friend group and meet new people who think differently. it's scary to step out of your comfort zone and away from what you're used to, but even if you don't like it, it's a good learning experience to be around people who think differently than you! 

when you go to a new school, you'll likely meet lots of people different from you, so think of it as an exciting change instead of something to be scared of! how cool is it that you can be whoever you want to be with no expectations? 

in my opinion, you should be sensitive to the people you love, but also live your life on your own terms: you only get one life, so do what makes you happy :))